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Womanhood in a Broken System
When I was 17 I decided I was ready to have penetrative sex with my then boyfriend. I went to planned parenthood with my mom and they put me on the pill. I gave it a good try for a few months and the mood swings were not working for me. I went back in, told them and...
The fullness of motherhood and the need for choice
I have three amazing beautiful little kids aged 13, 10, and 6. Often times when I’m out alone with the kids or with my husband most people passing by make comments like “phew I bet you’re busy”, or “i bet your hands are full”. These people aren’t wrong, not only are...
A Letter To Me From Me
Dear Lakota, thank you; I deeply appreciate all the unending and sometimes painful work you have been doing to heal your sexuality. Not everyone else sees the steps you’ve taken or knows the weight tied to your ankles during each step. Not everyone can see and...
Masturbation Is Where I Find Myself
Speaking my mind has always been a really hard thing to do. Not only because I feared what everyone would think every time I spoke my truth, but also because I couldn’t hear my own truth. My whole life I saw my external world as more important, more prominent...
Shedding Menstrual Shame in the Sacred Space of Bodysex
I stared at my period app calendar, frustrated that either it wasn’t right or my body wasn’t. I was supposed to have my period by now, in fact I’d intentionally planned this bodysex circle so that it would be just past the heavy days. Every time I went to the bathroom...
The Power of Pleasure: Establishing Self-Love Through Masturbation
"You'll be a pretty girl when you grow up" my dad said when I was probably around 10. I felt like I was in a car driving on the highway and hit a road block as soon as I heard this. I tried so hard to be what he wanted, to be someone he could tolerate spending any...
From Mother to Daughter: Creating A Positive Puberty Together
I hadn't realized that I'd been hoping that my daughter would just grow pubic hair, love it, and never want to do anything with it independently until about a week ago. I sat at my computer reading through emails when I heard my daughter say from the bathroom, "Hey,...
I Used to Hate My Pubic Hair
Sitting on the toilet, looking at the newly found dark curly hair between my legs, I feel horrified, and disgusted. I didn't ask for these hairs, these weren't supposed to happen until I was a grown adult, what are they doing here on my 9 year old body!? Not only is...
My Current Relationship with My Body and My Orgasm
How do I feel about my body? How do I feel about my orgasm? These two questions always bring my attention and focus right into the exact current moment I'm experiencing. Bringing my focus to how I feel right now in the moment serves to help me understand what my needs...