by Lakota | Jun 2, 2026 | Blog
This blog post was really hard for me to write. But here goes nothing, or everything rather. I still struggle with competition and envy between women, but for me it often shows up less like jealousy and more like disconnection. When a woman feels “put...
by Lakota | Apr 28, 2026 | Blog
The way my whole body softened at the idea was like liquid warmth. “How lucky you are to be such an amazing mom, you already know how to care for yourself, the exact same way you’ve been caring for your kids.” One of my best friends told me this after coming out of a...
by Lakota | Mar 31, 2026 | Blog
I knew when I was three. My mom always told me that if anyone ever asked to see or touch my body to tell her immediately. Always come and tell. When I was three years old we lived with my parents friend who had teenage boys. They were babysitting me, and they...
by Lakota | Mar 31, 2026 | Blog
Important disclaimer: This is what I know to be true about my body and my techniques right now, it is not what has always been true and might not be what is always true going forward. Should my body shift and change as bodies do for all the reasons, hormones,...
by Lakota | Apr 27, 2025 | Blog
“Arousal” I hear the word and instantly I have parts of me blaring inside. These parts bounce around my mind, confused, looking for clues in the crevices of my brain, ruffling through old memories of things that were logged as turn ons at some point. It’s almost like...
by Lakota | Dec 1, 2024 | Blog
When I was 17 I decided I was ready to have penetrative sex with my then boyfriend. I went to planned parenthood with my mom and they put me on the pill. I gave it a good try for a few months and the mood swings were not working for me. I went back in, told them and...
